It’s all about love….
Today was one of those days. One of those ones you experience when a love just ended, your dream bubble burst or you are coming down from some other form of “happy maker”.
I shared with you yesterday that I participated in a family constellation workshop just a few days ago and that I felt so connected afterward as I hadn’t felt in a long time.
So today as I was driving my daughter to school I was pondering how I could sustain my feeling of connectedness.
I examined what keeps me from feeling connected and I noticed that it was my thoughts that kept constantly questioning whether I was doing the right thing with my life and telling me I should do this or that, comparing myself to all these “successful people” out there.
As I noticed the busy chatter going on upstairs, I asked myself, what if what is happening in my life right now and what I am doing in my life right now is exactly what I am supposed to be doing?
Ask your self : what if what is happening in your life right now and what you are doing in your life right now is exactly what you are supposed to be doing?
Doesn’t it feel good?
This why I said in the beginning it’s all about love. Self empowerment is all about love.
Through out the day today I asked myself (when ever I remembered) am I empowering myself right now or not?
Tomorrow ask yourselt through out the day: am I empowering myself right now?
Let me know how you are doing!
P.S.: Here is how my Mentor JoAnna Chartrand-Benz explains family constellation:
ABOUT CONSTELLATION WORK
Generation after generation, our inherited emotional and behavioral imprints keep showing up in our lives. Unknowingly we may carry our ancestors unresolved issues generations later. This information is encoded in our energy fields, DNA and cellular memories and has an affect on our health and well-being; mentally, emotionally and physically. In this workshop we will focus on integrating and healing unresolved trauma in our personal lives and from our family systems.
Unresolved emotional or physical trauma forms a residue of energy that remains locked in the energetic centers of the body and the family system and, if not released, can result in traumatic re enactments, unhealthy and disruptive life patterns, mental and physical illness, phobias, depression, panic attacks, anxiety, dissociation, freeze and immobility, soul fragmentation and loss and an interruption to love and life.
By setting up a systemic constellation it becomes possible for past wrongs, hidden dynamics, conflicts, disconnections, soul loss and entanglements to be revealed. When we resolve these old traumas the interrupted love and life returns and flows into the family system and our children and future generations no longer have to repeat these limiting patterns and traumatic events.
A constellation can also be set up for your family system, business, abundance issues, relationships, pets, art, writing, political systems etc. Any system can be represented and the resolution that already exists in the Morphogenetic Field can be accessed and revealed.
WHAT IS A MORPHOGENETIC FIELD?
Rupert Sheldrake talks about morphogenetic fields (or M-fields) as invisible organizing patterns that act like energy templates to establish forms on various levels of life.
eg: When Sir Roger Bannister broke the 4-minute mile he created a new M-field. The belief system prevailing in human consciousness had been that the 4-minute mile was a limit of human possibility. Once the new M-field was created, many runners suddenly began to run sub-4 minute miles. This occurs every time mankind breaks into a new paradigm, whether its the capacity to fly (an M-field created by the Wright Brothers), or the capacity to recover from alcoholism (an M-field created by Bill W., the founder of alcoholics anonymous). Once an M-field is created, everyone who repeats the accomplishment reinforces its power. Once it’s created, it exists as a universally available pattern throughout the invisible universe.(David Hawkins 1995 )
When we set up your Constellation we are setting up the M-fields that you are entangled in and living in as your reality. What a Constellation does is reveal these old M-fields of limitation, stuck energies and patterns, so that we are now conscious of these energies and dynamics in our field and their source. The source may be with your Ancestors, your own personal emotional and physical traumas or from the collective group consiousness. Once we are conscious we can create new M-fields that no longer continue these old painful and limiting patterns. We begin to create M-fields in alignment with an even greater field that Hellinger calls Spirit-Mind.
In a (family) system we are always in touch with this Morphogenetic Field or Knowing field and we feel the whole field. Usually we are not aware of the fact that we are in touch with everything and everything is in touch with us. The system is bigger, greater and older, and we are unconsciously subjected to it.
HOW CONSTELLATIONS ARE DONE
Constellations were originally designed to be done in a group but can also be done in an individual setting. The facilitator, together with the client, will explore the issue by gathering information about the participant’s family or other system, focusing on factual information about tragedies, trauma, difficult destinies, and other events that marks the client or the client’s system. The participant can then choose representatives for the people or parts in question, and place them in relationship to each other according to the inner picture. Alternatively, the group members can offer to stand in roles that ’speak to them’ and also find the place they feel they need to stand in.
Invariably, an amazing thing happens: the representatives will start feeling sensations and emotions related so intimately to the true family members, that people oftentimes are shocked and relieved at the same time about the accuracy with which the family drama unfolds, revealing the hidden links to their own life’s drama.
With more and more information unfolding, words and actions can be found (by the representatives and/or the facilitator) to free the entangled from misdirected love, identities and fates. And, step by step, in finding the true and original order (‘the order of love’), the members of the client’s system (representatives) can find the place where they truly belong. They can feel peace and acceptance, and so can the mind, heart, and soul of the client.
TRAUMA & TRANS-GENERATIONAL HEALING
“As long as our ancestors are still suffering within us, we cannot be truly happy. If we make a step with awareness …, we do this for all the past and future generations. They all arrive at the same moment we arrive and we all find peace at the same time.”
~ Thich Nhat Hahn
• To identify the hidden dynamics underlying disease
• To bring peace and understanding to your own suffering and that of others in your family.
• To align you with the overshadowing family soul To release and heal unresolved beliefs and patterns that you may be carrying from previous generations.
• To allow love to live in the family lineage
• To bring the strengths, gifts, and potentials that have been suppressed through the generations into birth and to replace the suffering and tradgedies with these new energies.
Events that may have a deep residual impact on the family soul might be:
Early death of parents, Divorce, Tragic death of a family member , Miscarriages or abortions. War Descendents of Holocaust , Adoptions, A mother that dies during childbirth, Death of an infant , Descendents of slavery, Incest , Forced emigration or loss of homeland, Mental illness in family lineage , History of hereditary or physical illness , Emotional or physical abandonment by a parent, Betrayal, Suicide , Hospitalization , Violence , Ill-gotten gains, Family secrets and Excluded family members
Educator – Somatic & Psycho-Spiritual Psychology